Posts Tagged ‘abusive drinking’

A Manager Helps an Employee Address His Depression and His Hazardous and Heavy Drinking After a Destroyed Relationship

Sunday, April 4th, 2010

Russ dropped out of high school when he was seventeen years old and eventually got a job at a local copper smelting plant. For the past five years he has gained a reputation as a diligent and hard-working individual who almost never calls off work due to sickness.

Nearly four-and-a-half months ago he started going out with a woman named Emma. They appeared to get along real well immediately and looked as if they had a lot of good times with one another.

The Excessive and Abusive Drinking Begins

When Russ met Emma, he almost never drank. This circumstance changed when Russ and Emma started dating on a regular basis. Actually, everything was going fine until Emma called Russ one night approximately 4:30 AM and said that she had to breakup and that she couldn’t explain the reason at that moment.

The next morning before he went to work, Russ drove to Emma’s apartment and found out that Emma had already moved out. Russ took this awfully hard. Actually, he was bewildered because they seemed to be getting along so well.

When Hazardous and Irresponsible Drinking Leads to Work Problems

So what did Russ do about Emma’s leaving? Rather than working through his pain and misery, he began getting inebriated just about every night. It didn’t take long for his coworkers or for his manager to notice that Russ was coming to work late at least once per week and that he frequently called off ill. Not only this but some of his co-workers made an appointment with staff in Human Resources and said that Russ over and over again came to work with a strong smell of alcohol on his clothes or on his breath.

Russ’s supervisor heard about all of this from Human Resources and also from Russ’s fellow employees. So one Monday morning he asked Russ to come into his office. He told Russ that he had recently noticed an extreme change in his sick time, work performance, attendance, and in his behavior.

When a Boss Can Motivate an Employee to Get Help For His or Her Abusive and Hazardous Drinking

Russ’s boss also stated that a number of his fellow employees reported him to Human Resources because he had been coming to work with a noticeable smell of alcohol. His manager then stated the following: “Russ, your fellow employees are not reporting you to the HR Department to get you into any trouble or because they dislike you but instead because they are concerned about you. And I am concerned too. I don’t want to pry into your business, but it is apparent that you are exhibiting some of the common symptoms and signs of problem drinking. As a consequence, I want you to go and see a healthcare practitioner in the employee’s assistance program to discuss your drinking situation and your depression.”

“Russ, I’m no healthcare professional or a psychiatrist, but I have seen several of my friends and relatives suffer through some really bad alcohol side effects. Furthermore, I have also experienced the signs of alcoholism first-hand in my own family. When individuals experience problems with drinking, these issues not only affect the drinker, but they also make an impact on his or her relatives, co-workers, family, friends, and neighbors.”

Russ admired his boss very much and as a consequence followed through with his suggestion the next morning when he called and scheduled an appointment with a counselor in the employee’s assistance program.

Russ is Still Depressed But Feels Some Hope That He Will Get Back on Track With His Life

Although Russ didn’t automatically feel any better or less depressed about the hurt he still has about Emma, he felt comfort knowing that his manager and his co-workers cared about him and wanted what’s best for him. This gave him some psychological relief for the first time in a number of weeks and he actually felt some hope that he would get his life back on track.

A Woman Gets Divorced, Gets Depressed, Engages in Abusive Drinking, and Gets Top-Quality Help at an Alcohol Treatment Clinic

Thursday, March 18th, 2010

Wendy was the mother of four children. Wendy had been feeling quite tense lately and started to “medicate” herself by having several glasses of wine each night after she tucked her children into bed. After nearly six weeks of this drinking routine, she finally understood the fact that rather than helping her ”chill out” and deal with her issues, drinking made her feel less restful when she awakened in the morning. This, in turn, made her feel increasingly more tense throughout the day.

After thinking about her “condition” for several days, Wendy made up her mind to discuss her drinking problem with her best friend. In fact, about twenty-five minutes into their discussion, Wendy’s friend, Eliana, told her that she knew about a very supportive and helpful doctor at the local alcohol and drug treatment facility. After talking to her friend, Wendy immediately got motivated to call the rehab clinic and make an appointment.

Ten days later she eventually got to meet the psychiatrist her friend had talked about. After their short-and-to-the-point introduction, Wendy told the psychiatrist that ever since she and her former husband got divorced, she has been having an extremely difficult time spiritually, financially, and psychologically.

At times, she felt that the divorce was behind her. Recently, though, she has been feeling quite depressed about the fact that she and her former husband couldn’t stay married and “make it”. When asked by the psychiatrist how long she and her ex-husband dated before they got married, Wendy explained to the doctor that her ex-husband and she dated for two-and-a-half years and then lived together for two years before they got married.

As Wendy was talking to the doctor, she highlighted the point that she honestly thought that her ex-husband and she waited long enough to know each other well enough before they got married. After the children started to arrive, however, just about everything appeared to go downhill. Moreover, both she and Robert started to drink, and their irresponsible and abusive drinking adversely affected their relationship, their finances, and their love for one another.

When things became less than cordial between them, Robert hired an attorney and filed for a divorce. Although things were clearly not going well and even though she was often depressed, Wendy told the doctor that she didn’t want to terminate their relationship. Once she was served her divorce papers, however, she knew that their relationship was over.

The physician told Wendy that the anxiety, tension, and stress that she has been experiencing concerning her hazardous drinking are some of the typical alcohol abuse effects and that the best solution for this state of affairs is rehab for one’s alcohol abuse. In fact, getting alcohol abuse treatment is essential because long-term drinking can get the drinker into even more serious alcohol and alcoholism problems.

After several counseling sessions with her doctor, Wendy was slowly but surely able to realize that the real source of her tension and her depression was that she had not laid to rest her resentful feelings she has for her former husband who had divorced her a year-and-a-half ago. With these insights and with the meds her psychiatrist prescribed, she eventually quit drinking, she started to feel much less depressed, and she began making more time for social activities with her friends and family. A few months after receiving treatment from her physician, she even started to date once again.

It was apparent that Wendy had come a long way. In fact, just about eight months after she terminated her treatment, Wendy had finally laid the depressing emotions of her former husband to rest and was beginning to feel better about herself and more spiritually “sound” and emotionally “together” than she had ever felt in her life.